Behavior

Behavior

“Every parent wants his /her children to behave appropriately as they grow. One thing to realize is that your child is naturally a good child. If your child behaves inappropriately, take your baby but throw away the behavior. Every mother in the delivery room picks up her baby and throws away the birth water. This will help you understand that things happening in the environment can affect your child’s feelings and behavior. This will also give you some insights on how to support your child to change from inappropriate to desired appropriate behaviors.

There is need for your family to establish common guidelines which is agreed within the family. Through this, common consequences are also agreed regarding the breaking of these guidelines. Children must be seen as partakers in establishment of these guidelines as a way of ensuring that the needs of the children are recognized. This will help to equip children in developing skills for critical thinking, conflict resolution, establishment of boundaries and natural consequences that follow when these boundaries are crossed. Parents also need to be consistent in implementing the natural consequences as this will help the children to develop independence and be accountable for their actions.”

Emotional

Emotional

“Our emotional self; forms part of the core of our being. It is that part of us that can be happy, sad, scared, hurt, or whatever feelings we have from to time to time. I call this the ‘little girl’ or ‘little boy’ inside each of us. It is your responsibility to ensure the emotional wellbeing of your children as they grow. This can be achieved through the following suggested steps:

Make your children to feel emotionally safe. Your children need to know and be reassured that they are loved and accepted for who they are. Acceptance is recognizing your children for who they are. Don’t live your lives through your children. Some parents want their children to go into the careers that they couldn’t achieve as a parent. For example, some parents want their children to go to medical school, which they as parents couldn’t achieve when they were the same age as their children. As your children grow, they will understand the feelings you have for them and it will be excellent for them to know that they are loved and accepted for who they are and not because of their careers.”